Wednesday, January 9, 2013

No one takes responsibility anymore!!!

Dear Reader Wake the Hell UP!!!!


     So here I was drinking my coffee look at Facebook when I see this Poster



I got so mad!!  Since when did we not have any of these options.  Why are people blaming others for there mistakes.  So what of morals?  If you don't want to play by the rules an innocent life has to be taken?  I can say from personal experiences that it is not because I did not have birth control, health care, or a high school education I got pregnant. I took my birth control and used condoms and got pregnant.  I took the precautions and I played.  Well I also paid.  I don't regret the decision to not kill my kids.  I kept them and I love them.  I was unmarried which was a problem but I took responsibility for what I did.  Now, granted, I am married now and yes to the father of my children. Oh yeah, forgot to tell you, I got pregnant twice using birth control which I bought.  I didn't expect for someone else to pay for it.  Now I will admit I had to get medicaid for both kids since I didn't have insurance.  I was also on WIC.  Both are exceptional programs  I would not have made it with out them.  I was also ashamed to have to use them. I am happy to say I now have health insurance and I am no longer on WIC.  I got off WIC as soon as my Son was off formula, now you say why didn't I breastfeed, well... I did not produce milk so I needed help!! I could have received help from the state for both my children till they where 5 years old.  I know a lot of women who use it until they can no longer use it.  There is nothing wrong with that.  I chose to get off of it because I no longer needed it.  It was a shock the first couple of times I had to pay for it out of pocket but we, as a family, decided that we could make ends meet without it.  It would stretch our pay checks, but someone else in more need then we are now could benefit from it since we are doing much better.  But all the while I was ashamed to use it.  So, as soon as I could, I became independent of the system.  So that is a little of the history of my use of the system.  Please do not tell me I don't know what it is like to need help.  I needed help and I got it, but when I was back on my feet I took responsibility for my actions.

  Now when I found out I was pregnant, I never thought of getting an abortion to save myself the shame or guilt.  When I called my Mom and said I was pregnant she asked me what I was going to do about it and the first thing that came out mouth was "What do you mean?  What am I going to do about it?  I am going to have a baby" luckily my Mom stood by me.  I was 22 years old when this happened. 

So I had a high school education,  I had birth control, and I had access to health care, even if it was humiliating to use it.  Now people will say I could have saved myself a lot of shame by waiting till I was married to get pregnant and I would not disagree with any of them. They are very right. I took the precautions and it was not enough as you can see.  I didn't take the easy road.  I took my lumps and took responsibility for my actions.  Now I have learned lessons and I have two wonderful kids I would never trade the world for.  So please do not tell me that you can prevent abortion if they have a high school education, healthcare, or birth control.  You can prevent abortions by taking responsibility for your own actions. 









1 comment:

  1. Well,that's right anyway although you never expected the pregnancy as at that time...what are the names of the kids

    ReplyDelete